However, the necks of plugs are usually quite slim so you might need a dildo that is a bit thicker to prepare even more. There is a whole lot of misinformation about anal and its "gasps" dangers, lengthy prep needed, practice, training etc. I like one finger but not more - their combined shape is lumpy in cross-section rather than circular - nothing to do with the size as a cock is more comfortable! Norma might mean using a douche - I have done this occasionally, but usually don't bother with more than showering.

My butt plug has quite a thick neck which gives a nice stretching feeling - it's a glass one from Love Honey - but overall is quite short - I don't like the poking feeling of anything going too deep! I don't know whether you've watched it in porn vids but the vast majority of people can't have anal sex like that. Get him to enter you slowly then stop still to allow you to fully relax and get used to the sensation.I find if my dh stimulates my clitoris is helps me relax and just hold it until your ready to proceed and it can be highly enjoyable , after a couple of times your bum will get used to it I know because dh accidentally put it in my bum and I didn’t scream in pain. uk/bejewelled-metal-clear-jewelled-butt-plug-3-35-or-4-inch but it seems that might not be thick enough. I will try your other suggestions although I need to find a butt plug that looks more "feminine" than the ones I have seen.

I would limit the amount of time - even to a minute or 2, until you really get the hang of relaxing and not suffering any unpleasant after effects. I have no interest in being on top, that isn't what makes it exciting for me, but missionary could work. I think it's something related to a more sustained stretch, than stretch/relax/stretch that makes it more comfortable if you see what I mean? The least painful (for entry) Ive found are me on top - having total control allows you to go at your own pace and relax into it or laying flat, face down but being face down for much of it, can get really sore - really quick.Its a nice filling feeling, but totally different to having anal and doesnt necesarily help with the relaxing in the begining. We have done it about 5/6 lately with no problems and have also had an organism through anal penatiton only. No extended anal play, no running downstairs with butt plugs, no objects in me at all that aren't there to make the later f*king by DH easier . I'm not advocating no lube, just making use of my own naturally produced + saliva but yes, I did mean a douche. Take a deep breath and allow him to enter slowly, try and it relax it’s natural for your body to push against this as if your having a poo as your bum is full of nerve endings.

I feel we need a topic "Bumsex for amateurs" as some of you seem way beyond anything I plan to experiment with! Just a thought - the thing about butt plugs is that the neck is usually quite slender, to allow for a more comfortable wearing experience. Takes five mins and I personally appreciate the effects (and mitigates the risk of clean up although doesnt remove it entirely) release between each swish (I cant believe Im writing this) and the way is clear, so to speak.

We have had plenty of foreplay prior and then pv sex ensuring we are fully aroused before making sure we applied plenty of lube before going anal. Could anyone who can remember the first times they had bumsex give me a detailed recipe for how I should be preparing for bumsex to avoid the sore bottom problem please.